Healing From Brokenness
Healing From Brokenness
When you experience emotions that have you “stuck” in a circle of despair, you must acknowledge that God is doing something with your pain and allow Him to work through you and heal you.
Welcome to the 86th issue of The Aim and Soar Life, a weekly newsletter about faith, personal growth, and lifestyle that provides actionable, relatable, and biblically rooted content to help you live abundantly and GROW YOU. GOD’S WAY.
Happy Sunday, Friend!
The theme for this month is Breaking Chains.
There are some hurts that stay with us indefinitely. We learn how to live with and temporarily manage the pain.
We may feel like we’ve moved on, but sometimes the hurt we’ve experienced leaves lasting scars we carry for life.
Our scars manifest themselves in our mistrust of other people and fear of entering into new relationships. Sometimes our scars manifest themselves as destructive thoughts in our lives like secretly feeling like we are not worthy of God’s love and therefore rejecting it.
Some of the hurt we carry can stem from childhood trauma, failed marriages, a friend’s betrayal, or our own addictions—the things that break us emotionally and spiritually.
One thing I want to make clear is that pain is pain. It doesn’t matter if you feel like you were at fault in a situation or identify as a victim, emotional pain is devastating either way.
When we experience brokenness we begin to look at ourselves through the lens of the trauma we’ve experienced.
How do we heal from brokenness?
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1. Know That All Things Work Together for Your Good!
In order to heal from brokenness, you need to know that the feeling of brokenness without you allowing God to intervene, can leave you in a perpetual state of feeling unworthy, angry, and frustrated which will cause you to pull away from God instead of drawing closer to Him.
But if you look at your brokenness from God’s perspective and embrace the truth that He uses every situation in your life for your ultimate good, you will learn to kick brokenness to the curb!
God does not want you walking around feeling worthless and miserable. Those feelings are not of Him. He’s got great plans for you (Jeremiah 29:11)!
28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
Romans 8:28, NKJV
I have shared before in another post that during my childhood, I was sexually abused by a relative. While I was growing up, I often felt inadequate and unworthy because of what happened to me as a child. I carried the stigma into my young adulthood for a long time.
But who knew but God, that one day I would become a family therapist and school social worker, who would impact the lives of young women just like me who struggled with self-esteem and feelings of unworthiness because of past abuse?
I was able to minister to those young women on a different level than other therapists because of my own experience. God took a terrible experience and allowed me to bless others.
God will use even the worst situations in your life to bring about His purpose for you. When you experience emotions that have you “stuck” in a circle of despair, you must acknowledge that God is doing something with your pain and allow Him to work through you and heal you. It’s okay to say, “Lord, I feel broken right now, like I can’t go on…”
God will use even the worst situations in your life to bring about His purpose for you. When you experience emotions that have you “stuck” in a circle of despair, you must acknowledge that God is doing something with your pain and allow Him to work through you and heal you. It’s okay to say, “Lord, I feel broken right now, like I can’t go on…”
God hears you and will heal you.
Tell yourself that this experience is temporary and it is not all that God has planned for you. You will get through it with God’s love and comfort.
2. You Are Fearfully and Wonderfully Made
After a failed relationship that I had so much hope for came to a dead-end, I began to question everything about myself. Every. Single. Thing. I didn’t need anyone else to tell me I was worthless because I told myself! I picked myself apart piece by piece and it caused me to question my self-worth even though on some level I knew better.
A failed marriage—especially one in which there has been emotional or physical abuse— can cause you to believe that you are whatever your partner labeled you as.
You may experience self-doubt or feel like a failure, which ultimately robs your confidence and prevents you from fully seeing yourself as God sees you.
Moving beyond the pain of brokenness takes looking through the lens through which God sees you. You must begin to believe and accept what God says about you, no matter what you have done or experienced.
One of my favorite Scriptures is Psalm 139 because King David says that he is fearfully and wonderfully made. That includes all of us who belong to Christ.
I will praise You, for [a]I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Psalm 139: 14, NKJV
You are specially made! A special order that is out of this world because you were created by the God of the universe. How awesome is that!
You are not what someone else calls you or what you call yourself. You are what God calls you. And God calls you fearfully and wonderfully made, friend!
Knowing this should give you a new confidence or what I call Godfidence! Hold your head high and know that God thinks you are special.
God doesn’t make broken things! He creates works of art!
Live like the precious work of art that you are because you were knitted together by the Master’s hands.
3 The Lord hath appeared of old unto me, saying, Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn thee.
Jeremiah 31:3, NKJV
3. God Loves You!
You may find yourself feeling unloved or unwanted. You may feel that your situation is hopeless and that you can’t get past the thoughts of failure. I’m here to tell you that God is in love with you!
Whatever is causing you to feel broken, give it to God and let Him love on you. Immerse yourself in the WORD and let God minister to your broken heart. Allow Him to be the love of your life.
When God becomes our focus something special happens. Jesus is a miracle worker. He can heal the deepest pains.
Let go.
Pour your love and pain out to God and watch what He does with it. He will give beauty for ashes.
Your temporary brokenness is a time of preparation for where God is taking you next.
Peace and Love.❤️
Until Next Time,
GROW YOU. GOD’S WAY.
Sherrhonda😍
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